Marriage Mentor Training Manual for Husbands - Softcover

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Marriage Mentor Training and Recruiting Leader’s Guide
Copyright © 2006 by The Foundation for Healthy Relationships
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ISBN-10: 0-310-27127-4
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Session one
The Preliminaries
Before You Lead
For the greatest experience in leading your mentor couples,
be
sure to look over a copy of both the Marriage Mentor Training
Manual for Husbands and the Marriage Mentor Training Manual
for Wives so that you’re well acquainted with the format. Familiarize
yourself with the session outline and gather the necessary
materials. Note: There is no video component for this session.
Session Outline (50 minutes total)
I. Welcome and prayer (5 minutes)
II. Icebreaker questions (10 – 15 minutes)
III. Course overview and exercises (20 minutes)
Schedule, format, materials, etc. (10 minutes)
Training exercise: Exploring Potential Fears .
of Marriage Mentoring (5 minutes)
Training exercise: Exploring Personal Hurdles
and Motivation (5 minutes)
IV. Question time and wrap-up (10 minutes)
Welcome and Prayer (5 minutes)
Welcome couples
to the group and pray to open the session. Time permitting, and depending on who is doing the training,
you may want to ask the pastor or appropriate member of
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the pastoral staff to offer a brief personal welcome and word of
encouragement.
Icebreaker Questions (10 – 15 minutes)
Direct couples
to the three bulleted questions on page 11 of
the manual. Have each couple
introduce themselves and briefly
answer at least one question of their choosing. Depending on
the size of the group, you may need to monitor time per couple
or break into smaller groups to ensure that everyone has an
opportunity to share.
Course Overview and Exercises (20 minutes)
This initial session is intended to provide everyone a look at
what is ahead for them in the marriage mentor training program,
including the overall schedule, individual session format,
necessary materials, and so on. Present the information contained
on pages 12 – 18 of the manual however you feel most
comfortable, whether by summarizing, reading portions yourself,
or having a group member or two do the reading. Don’t
assume that couples
have already read it. During this portion of the session, there are two exercises
for everyone to explore, both individually and as
a couple
(the first is on page 13, the second on pages
16 – 17). Introduce them to each exercise, explaining
that these are typical of what they can expect
throughout the training. Give them about five minutes
for each one — a minute or two for the on-theirown
aspect and the rest of the time for discussing
answers with their spouse.
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Question Time and Wrap-up (10 minutes)
Especially if there are no opportunities for questions during the
session itself, be sure to save a few minutes for this at the end of
each session. If you don’t have an answer to a particular question,
make note of it and try to have an answer by the next
session.
Ask couples
to read, if possible, chapters 1 – 7 of The Complete
Guide to Marriage Mentoring before the next session. Then
close your time together in prayer.