We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deception unravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth.
Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling.
Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first.
Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.
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Book Description Paperback. Condition: Very Good. First Thus. Pretending and truth-telling in women's lives. This paperback is very good condition, dated 1993. Seller Inventory # 012368
Book Description Paperback. Condition: Very Good. The book has been read, but is in excellent condition. Pages are intact and not marred by notes or highlighting. The spine remains undamaged. Seller Inventory # GOR004707245
Book Description Paperback. Condition: Fair. 254 pages. Cover worn. Text buckledA study of the role of tru th-telling and pretending in women's lives, explores the theory t hat pretending is so inextricably linked with society's notions o f feminine behaviour, that it is what women are expected to do. D r Lerner goes beyond conventional distinctions between deception and honesty, between good and bad, to give an analysis of what ly ing represents in a society where women's truths are often unsp oken truths. Seller Inventory # 1373y